Stop worrying. Change what you can; live with what you can't.

We all have things we would like to change about ourselves or improve.  

I think it's a shame when these things involve changing how we look, if we believe how we look isn't good enough.  Sometimes, simply taking control of our lives can be enough to accept how we look and become comfortable, if not happy with it.

Sometimes these changes we want to make involve dropping a few pounds.  I prefer to look on this change as moving towards a healthier way of living rather than diminishing the amount of space we take up.  This is why lifting weights is such a good way for women to lose weight because as our fat decreases, our confidence increases!

Many people complain to me that they cannot lose the last few pounds they believe they need to lose to become completely happy with themsleves.

I have trouble with this on two counts.

Firstly, by believing that you cannot be truly happy until something or other happens, you are delaying your life.  You are stoping yourself from living in the moment and you are actually making it harder to achieve that goal because you build it up into the be-all and end-all of your happiness.

Happiness is not actually about being happy.  

Happy is not a thing you are; it's a thing you do.  It's what you are doing.

One way to help happiness come about is by feeling you have control over your immediate environment and your life.  There are a million things you can do to take control.  In this instance, we are talking about taking control of your nutrition. 

Secondly, I have trouble with this because it's actually very simple.  If you really want to make the change enough, then find out what you have to do and do it!  If you don't, you really didn't want it enough - so accept that!  Stop beating yourself up for not losing a few pounds and accept it!  Otherwise you will be living in this horrendous cycle of resolve, failure, guilt and self-punishment and your life will again be on hold.  This is no way to live.

This is what you need to do:

Decide how much you genuinely want to change.

Work out precisely what you need to do to make this happen.

Do it.

Or don't.